​When I was younger, in Chinese culture I was taught to be quiet, to be a good girl, to be humble, diligent and never expect too much. We were taught only to work hard, study hard and to hope for the better. In the famous Asian book and movie the Joy Luck Club, there was a scene where the mother lectures her daughter and says: “never expect anything, never expect!” 

As I grew up, I realized this saying was so true, I started to believe that the secret to happiness is to never expect anything good to happen or never expect anything from anyone else, then you will never be disappointed. I started to expect bad things to happen, I imagined things and events with the worth possible outcome then when it didn’t happen, I was happy about anything that came after. 

So for many years, I thought this way of thinking was justified and normal. But then as I got older I realized that’s something only someone who is emotionally immature would say. People who say this think that by eliminating desires and expectations, things will get better. If you  haven’t accepted the disappointments in life and your brain will try to find solutions to pretend they can get over the feeling of disappointment. 

Disappointment means expectations not being met. That’s it.

If you  try to control the world, if you try to control other people or events that are out of your control that is why you are not happy. You are upset at a phrase instead of realizing you are disappointed because you simply can not control what you want to.

So after I made peace with the phrases of disappointment, I now only expect good things to happen. So in the cases where my expectations are not met, I’m not attached to the results and my happiness is my decision to be happy and it’s not based on that outcome. But most of the time, because I am expecting good things to happen, every cell in my body is my cheerleader, the universe, god, Buddha, whoever you believe is the higher power will also help us get there. 

If you are aiming for the next goal, are you expecting good results? Are you expecting good things to happen? 

Expecting good things can improve your mental health. Optimism is linked to reduced levels of stress, anxiety, and depression. When you anticipate positive outcomes, it can improve your overall mood and resilience.

Optimists tend to approach problems with a positive attitude. People are often attracted to people who radiate positivity and optimism, this will lead you to stronger and better social  relationships.

Expecting good things does not mean ignoring or denying the existence of challenges, it’s just when you believe that good things are possible, you’re more likely to persevere through difficult times.

When you expect good things to happen, you’re more likely to set ambitious goals and take steps to achieve them.

The belief that good things will happen can lead to behaviors and decisions that increase the likelihood of positive outcomes. This is called a self-fulfilling prophecy.

When you expect success, you are more likely to work hard, take risks, and most importantly leaving the door open to seize opportunities.

Cheers to you working on your dream and expecting more blessings to shower your life.

See you next week. 

Kelly Mosser is a soulful business strategist, top 1% business podcast host of The Aligned Success Show, and podcast guesting expert helping entrepreneurs go from being the hidden gem to thought leaders through guesting on other podcasts.

In this episode we talked about:

• PodMatch
• Where to find guesting opportunities? 
• The key elements of a good pitch? 
• The biggest pitching mistakes podcast guests make 
• How can an entrepreneur shift their mindset to feel ready for bigger stages and opportunities?
• How to magnetize dream clients through podcast guesting

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Kathy McEwan is a Home Organizing Expert, Podcast Host – Organize for Success, Speaker, and Course Creator. Kathy helps her clients and students transform their cluttered and disorganized homes into clutter-free, spacious, organized, and peaceful homes.  Kathy educates her clients and the public by explaining that everyone can learn how to become organized and have a more simplified life.

Kathy also mentors other professional organizers who would like to grow their organizing business and increase profit. Her goal is to help other P.O’s have successful home organizing companies so they can have the freedom to have a lifestyle they desire.

In this episode, we talked about:

• Reasons why people have a lot of clutter.
• Common challenges people face when trying to declutter their home.
• Success stories who experienced a significant transformation after implementing organizing strategies.
• How to effectively involve family in household organizing and get their support.

​Connect with Kathy McEwan

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As the Founder & CEO of The EffortLESS Life®, Courtney Elmer is a sought-after consultant, host of the globally ranked Anti-Fragile Entrepreneurship™ podcast, and speaker who empowers online entrepreneurs to embrace antifragility and grow through what they go through to create the greater income, influence, and impact they deserve.

Drawing on her background in psychology and personal experience as a cancer survivor, Courtney empowers online business leaders to establish the systems, structure, and support they need to reach the $1M milestone, increase their visibility through podcasting, and use their voice to redefine thought leadership and catalyze positive change in the world.

Courtney hosts the globally ranked Anti-Fragile Entrepreneurship™ podcast, where she interviews renowned experts like John Lee Dumas, Jordan Harbinger, Gay Hendricks, Hal Elrod, and many others about how entrepreneurs can leverage adversity to their advantage to create massive personal and professional growth. She’s also a popular speaker on the topics of podcast marketing, business systems, and entrepreneurial antifragility at notable industry conferences such as PodFest Global, and her skills and knowledge are frequently sought by leaders and teams from Forbes, Fast Company, PopSugar, and dozens more. Her podcast was recently ranked #2 on the list of 11 Top Business Podcasts for Professionals by Small Biz Trends, surpassing How I Built This and Harvard Business Review.

Courtney lives in New Orleans with her husband Alan and their son AJ, a surprise miracle baby following her cancer treatments.

In this episode, we talked about:

• What are some common mindset shifts that entrepreneurs need to make in order to turn adversity into an opportunity?
• How she helps clients maintain their momentum even when facing ongoing challenges and obstacles?
• How has her personal experience with cancer helped her understand and empathize with her clients’ own struggles as entrepreneurs?
• Other advice to give to entrepreneurs who are facing their own personal challenges or setbacks?

​Connect with Courtney Elmer 

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We’ve all been taught to never give up. But as I aged I started to find that sometimes “Giving up” or letting go of a problem or situation can really be a good strategy, especially when you run out of all reasonable avenues to find a solution or when the situation simply causes you too much stress or harm. 

Constantly trying to solve a seemingly unsolvable problem can really take a toll on your mental and emotional health. In such cases, stepping back and allowing yourself to let go can reduce stress and prevent burnout. When we are not stressed, our mind becomes alot more clear so we actually have the energy and mind capacity to think properly.

Sometimes investing too much time and resources in solving a particular problem can prevent you from pursuing other opportunities or tasks that may be more productive or enjoyable. So by letting go of your current problem, you free up resources to explore others.  

In some cases, the problem may be beyond your control or influence. Accepting that you can not change the outcome can help you increase your resilience and adaptability to circumstances.

Also remember that not every problem has a possible solution, and some situations are inherently unpredictable or uncontrollable. Accepting this reality and learning from the experience can lead to personal growth and development.

Insisting on finding a solution to some interpersonal conflicts can sometimes bring tension or damage relationships. Letting go of the need to “win” can help maintain or mend these relationship.

Some problems may have no obvious solution or the solution may become apparent only over time.

Constantly feeling stuck with the problems can be an inefficient use of your time.

Giving up for the time being and coming back to the problem later can provide a brand new perspective because giving up can allow your mind to relax and create the mental space needed for innovation and creativity.

 It’s important to note that “giving up” doesn’t necessarily mean giving up on every problem or challenge at the first sign of trouble. It’s about recognizing when further efforts may be ineffective and potentially harmful. I definitely believe persistence and determination are valuable qualities and some problems require constant effort to overcome.

Ultimately, the decision to “give up” must be carefully considered, considering factors such as the nature of the problem, the potential consequences of continuing the effort, and the impact on health and other aspects of your life. I’m here to simply offer you this new insight that maybe just maybe giving up is the next strategy you need because I have heard people using “giving up” as a strategy and it worked really well. It was only when they threw in the towel and decided that there was absolutely no way to reach a goal, the entire team went home totally relaxed for their decision. Yet the second morning, all of a sudden everything started lighting up new light bulbs of ideas.