If we want to stop feeling regret we need to understand why we feel regret in the first place. 

Regret is a negative emotion that occurs when you believe your past actions or behaviors or decisions, if changed, may have achieved a better outcome or result or especially in your current situation. 

Regret is often closely associated with feelings of guilt and shame.

When it involves someone else we often express the emotion of regret to others in the form of an apology. When the regret is in our own decision, we often hold on to these negative feelings for a long time and therefore will lead to unhealthy mental health. 

Regret can have damaging effects on our mind and body when it turns into useless rumination and self-blame that keeps us from re-engaging with actually living our current life. This pattern can be repetitive, negative, and if persistent can lead to thinking with characteristics of depression. 

The reason why regret feels so awful is because, by its nature, it implies that there is something you could have done, some choice you could have made, or some action you could have taken that would have made, of something you should have done to make better things happen or avoided something terrible.

If you have noticed my language, there was a lot of could haves, would haves should haves in what I just said and these words are dangerous dead words to be used when ruminating the past. These words put blame on yourself and keep you stuck in the negative spiral about your past instead of being more mindful in the present and future goal focused. 

Here are some suggestions for how to cope with and move past feelings of regret:

1. Acknowledge and accept your feelings: It’s okay to feel regretful. Allow yourself to experience and express these emotions, rather than trying to suppress or ignore them because we all have experienced them in life before.
2. Reflect on the situation: Take some time to think about what happened and what you could have done differently. Try to be honest with yourself and avoid blaming others or making excuses.
3. Learn from the experience: Consider what you can learn from the situation and how you can apply those lessons in the future. Remember that we all make mistakes and it’s a natural part of life.
4. Make amends, if possible: If your actions had a negative impact on someone else, consider whether there is anything you can do to make things right. This may involve apologizing or offering some form of compensation.
5. Move forward: Once you have reflected on the situation and taken any appropriate action, try to let go of the regret and focus on the present. It’s important to remember that you can’t change the past, but you can choose how you respond to it.
6. Seek help: It can be helpful to talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist or life coach about your feelings of regret. Get support and a different perspective as you work through your emotions and find ways to move forward.

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Ameet Khabra live and breath Pay Per Click. If you want record-breaking ROI from yoru pay per click advertising, she’s your girl.

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• What must be included in a pay per click
• More advanced marketers actually use negative keywords in their ads strategies, tell us more about that? 
• Google Ads and Facebook Ads together?
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​Nicole Edwards is an award-winning keynote speaker, TEDx Speaker, Non-Profit Leader, founder & CEO of Edwards Authentic and Bestselling co-author.

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• How criticism is different from feedback

• How her past experienced criticism propeled her forward
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​Amy Scruggs is a media coach who uses her 20 years’ experience as a Media Executive, TV host, Recording Artist, Public Speaker, Corporate Spokesperson, and Sales Professional, to help others present and communicate a concise and professional message, for TV, podcasts, ZOOM, social media, or public speaking appearances. In 2021 Amy received “Bestseller” with her book “Lights Camera Action”

Things you will learn in this episode:

• Who media coaching is for
• How to be more effective in communication
• Media coaching tips for any professional
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There are a few signs that may indicate that you could benefit from setting and maintaining stronger personal boundaries:

1. You often feel overwhelmed, drained, or taken advantage of by others.
2. You have difficulty saying “no” to requests or demands from others, even when they are unreasonable or inconvenient.
3. You find it difficult to set and maintain boundaries with others, whether in your personal or professional life.
4. You have a tendency to put the needs of others before your own, often to the point of neglecting your own well-being.
5. You have a hard time setting and achieving your own goals because you are too focused on meeting the expectations of others.
6. You frequently feel anxious or stressed out because you are unable to meet the expectations of others or because you feel that you are not living up to your own expectations.

If you recognize any of these signs in yourself, it may be a good idea to start setting and maintaining stronger personal boundaries.

This can help you feel more in control of your life, reduce feelings of stress and overwhelm, and allow you to focus on your own needs and goals.

Setting personal boundaries is an important part of maintaining a healthy balance in your relationships and taking care of your own well-being. Here are some tips for putting more personal boundaries in place:

1. Know your limits: It’s important to understand your own limits and what you are and are not comfortable with. Take some time to think about what you need in order to feel balanced and fulfilled, and use this as a guide for setting boundaries.
2. Know your values and priorities: We have millions of tasks that we could possibly attend to do, but you get to choose what is important to you and there’s no right or wrong answer here. What’s important to you is important for you to look at and spend time on so know your values and priorities and put them first on your calendar. 
3. Communicate your boundaries: Once you know what your boundaries are, it’s important to communicate them to others. This can be difficult at times, but it’s essential for maintaining healthy relationships and taking care of yourself. Be clear and direct about what you are and are not willing to accept, and try to do so in a non-confrontational way.
4. Practice saying “no”: It can be hard to say no, especially if you’re a people-pleaser or if you feel pressure to do things for others. However, it’s important to be able to say no in order to maintain your own boundaries and protect your own well-being. Practice saying no in a respectful way, and don’t be afraid to do so when it’s necessary.
5. Don’t be afraid to set consequences: If someone constantly violates your boundaries, it may be necessary to set consequences. This could be as simple as telling the person that you will no longer engage in a certain behavior or activity with them if they continue to disrespect your boundaries.
6. Work on your self worth muscles. Feeling self worth and confident is important factor on how we see ourselves being treated and how we can 
7. Seek support: If you’re having difficulty setting and maintaining boundaries, it can be helpful to seek support from a therapist or other trusted individuals such as life coaches or productivity coaches. They can provide guidance and help you develop strategies for setting and enforcing your boundaries.

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