There are a few signs that may indicate that you could benefit from setting and maintaining stronger personal boundaries:

1. You often feel overwhelmed, drained, or taken advantage of by others.
2. You have difficulty saying “no” to requests or demands from others, even when they are unreasonable or inconvenient.
3. You find it difficult to set and maintain boundaries with others, whether in your personal or professional life.
4. You have a tendency to put the needs of others before your own, often to the point of neglecting your own well-being.
5. You have a hard time setting and achieving your own goals because you are too focused on meeting the expectations of others.
6. You frequently feel anxious or stressed out because you are unable to meet the expectations of others or because you feel that you are not living up to your own expectations.

If you recognize any of these signs in yourself, it may be a good idea to start setting and maintaining stronger personal boundaries.

This can help you feel more in control of your life, reduce feelings of stress and overwhelm, and allow you to focus on your own needs and goals.

Setting personal boundaries is an important part of maintaining a healthy balance in your relationships and taking care of your own well-being. Here are some tips for putting more personal boundaries in place:

1. Know your limits: It’s important to understand your own limits and what you are and are not comfortable with. Take some time to think about what you need in order to feel balanced and fulfilled, and use this as a guide for setting boundaries.
2. Know your values and priorities: We have millions of tasks that we could possibly attend to do, but you get to choose what is important to you and there’s no right or wrong answer here. What’s important to you is important for you to look at and spend time on so know your values and priorities and put them first on your calendar. 
3. Communicate your boundaries: Once you know what your boundaries are, it’s important to communicate them to others. This can be difficult at times, but it’s essential for maintaining healthy relationships and taking care of yourself. Be clear and direct about what you are and are not willing to accept, and try to do so in a non-confrontational way.
4. Practice saying “no”: It can be hard to say no, especially if you’re a people-pleaser or if you feel pressure to do things for others. However, it’s important to be able to say no in order to maintain your own boundaries and protect your own well-being. Practice saying no in a respectful way, and don’t be afraid to do so when it’s necessary.
5. Don’t be afraid to set consequences: If someone constantly violates your boundaries, it may be necessary to set consequences. This could be as simple as telling the person that you will no longer engage in a certain behavior or activity with them if they continue to disrespect your boundaries.
6. Work on your self worth muscles. Feeling self worth and confident is important factor on how we see ourselves being treated and how we can 
7. Seek support: If you’re having difficulty setting and maintaining boundaries, it can be helpful to seek support from a therapist or other trusted individuals such as life coaches or productivity coaches. They can provide guidance and help you develop strategies for setting and enforcing your boundaries.

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• Why is positioning important in building a personal brand?
• What is the difference between positioning and branding?
• What are some foundational principles positioning
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• What are the big brands doing that personal brands are not?
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• Living a great life courageously through her cancer journey
• Difference between survivor or being a Life Warrior
• Keeping a positive mindset
• Living a meaningful life
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Kendra Swalls is the founder of Girl Means Business brand and host of her podcast Girl Means Business.  Now she helps women, like you, take their business from survival-mode to success-mode using the same relationship marketing strategies that have been the foundations for her business success.

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• How to let people like you
• How like happens through connection
• Why people trust
• And much more…

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This is the season we set new year’s resolutions and goals, so let’s talk about why are people failing to reach their goals? Because this is one of the top questions I get asked.

There are so many reasons why people may fail to reach their goals but the top reasons include:

1. Lack of motivation or discipline: It can be hard to maintain the motivation and discipline needed to consistently work towards a goal, especially if the goal is difficult or requires a long-term commitment. It’s so much easier to stay motivated in Janurary, but once Feb. comes around, much of the motivation dies. So by that point it’s no longer about being motivated, it’s more about just taking action, consistent actions, aligned actions. 
2. Lack of a clear plan: Without a clear plan or roadmap for how to achieve a goal, it can be difficult to stay on track and make progress. 
3. Lack of resources: Some goals may require resources such as time, money, or support from others, and if these resources are not available, it can be challenging to make progress towards the goal. So be honest with yourself, do you have the support system you need to get to where you want to go. Don’t have enough time? That’s BS we will always have time for our top priorities, so manage your priorities! No money? That’s BS there are tons of way to get funds, you will find funding if you truly wanted to. Don’t have a support system? Have you invested yourself in a coach or coaching program? 
4. Unrealistic expectations: Setting overly ambitious goals or expecting too much of oneself can lead to disappointment and a lack of progress.
5. External circumstances: Sometimes, external factors such as illness, unexpected changes in one’s personal or professional life, or other unforeseen events can make it difficult to achieve a goal.
6. The name “goal” itself is hard to accomplish. Think of the world cup, world’s top teams come together and many teams still score zero. Because we have goalies (self doubt & inner criticism etc) stopping us from reaching the goal. Rename the goal to something else. Intentions etc. 
7. I think the most important one is not having enough fun. If you are having enough fun while reaching your goals it’s alot easier to get there. 

Ultimately, the specific reasons why a person may fail to reach a goal will depend on their individual circumstances and the specific goal they are trying to achieve. But always remember circumstances are neutral and we get to determine if we put a positive or negative spin on these circumstances that come up in life. 

So let’s wrap up with what we should do to reach our new year’s resolution or goals:

1. Find out what truly motivates you and set a reward accordingly. Find the best modality that keeps you motivated and even when motivation is not present, keep yourself disciplined.
2. Reverse engineer and set up a clear plan for your top priorities for the year, then month. 
3. Seek out help, resources are readily available everywhere, keep an open mind for help and opportunities. 
4. Set SMART goals. 
5. When external circumstances arise, fix the strategy or work ahead of schedule to avoid illness etc. 
6. Change the name of your goal to something that speaks more joy to you. 
7. Have more fun. Make a list of how you can have more fun. 

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