Guest featured in this episode:

Things you will learn in this episode:

• Her early years, what were some of her upbringing beliefs? 
• When she told her parents she wanted to be a fashion designer, what was their reaction? 
• She had a dream job at Calvin Klein but wanted more. So in 2012, she went against the advice of everyone she knew, and took a leap of faith and quit her job to launch The House of Perna. We talked about what kind of mindset work she needed to do on herself in order for this to happen?
• The beautiful story behind why she named her brand The House of Perna instead of just her name.
• She appeared on the hit TV series Project Runway, how that publicity pivoted her business? 
• What she wish she knew when first started her business? 
• And much more

I say this a lot, your emotions are valid.

Why?

Because our emotions are rooted in our subconscious mind, so as long as we are a living breathing being, we’re going to have emotions. 

But in a worst-case scenario, we get emotionally hijacked.

An emotional hijack refers to a personal emotional response that is immediate, overwhelming, and out of measure with the actual stimulus because it has been triggered from a much more significant emotional threat.

This term was first coined by psychologist Daniel Goleman in 1995. Another way to explain this is emotional hijack is a situation in which the part of your brain that serves as your emotional processor, hijacks, or even bypasses your normal reasoning process.

An example of an emotional hijack can be when you suddenly snap at someone when they have only said one word. It isn’t really that word that triggered the anger, it’s the emotions behind what previously happened. You might regret your own reactions and hate yourself for being a slave to your own emotions.

You become programmed to react in a certain way to a specific set of circumstances and might feel out of self-control. If you ever felt this way, then you are being hijacked by your emotions. 

To break away from the hijacking you really only have two choices:

Choice #1 You can forget what happened, move on like any other normal day and react the same way the next time you’re faced with similar circumstances. Or,

Choice #2  you can try to sort through your thoughts and feelings, like pieces of a puzzle. 

You need to do some inner work and dig for the answer to WHY you reacted the way you did, you can alter and train your default reaction so that your response would be different next time. 

Some good self-reflection questions to contemplate your behavior are: 

• What is the real reason I reacted the way I did? 
• Did my reaction help me or harm me? 
• How will I feel about this in an hour? How about In a  month? Or A year later? 
• What would I do differently if I could do it again? 
• What will I say to myself the next time this happens that would help me think more clearly and react differently? 

Get yourself thinking, do these reflections often, recognize your emotional behaviors. Instead of feeling guilty for what you did, turn those emotional hijacks into a catalyst for intentional thoughts and reflection, and of course, the ultimate goal is eventually, to change. 

A lot of people use emotions and feelings interchangeably and I think that’s not very accurate. Feelings are the reactions to circumstances that can come after the emotion. For example, we sometimes would say I’m feeling very stressed out after this happened. But the FEELING can be different for everyone. Someone else might feel excited after the exact circumstances.

So you see, we get to determine our thoughts after the situation, and that in turn determines our feelings towards the situation. So the good news is you can control your thoughts or practice changing negative thoughts into positive thoughts, that is one major way to stop emotional hijack.

Other ways to stop emotional hijacking include focusing on taking longer deeper breaths before reacting or change of scenery. You can literally also get up and walk elsewhere. If you are having a conversation, you can delay the conversation or even come back to it rather than allowing impulsive reactions to cloud your judgment or have a negative impact on your words and behaviors. 

Always always always remember that our goal is to be maintaining a composed state of awareness, and being mindful and very conscious of your reactions.

Choose your thoughts intentionally.

Believe that you are in control and even when you’re being hijacked, you will have the absolute power to stop it right there.

You are the CEO of this organization called YOUR life!

Guest featured in this episode:

Chantal is an Instagram Strategist and coach.

She helps service providers and personal brands grow a profitable, aligned brand by being fully self-expressed in their marketing. 

Things you will learn in this episode:

• Who should be using IG stories?

• What should you be posting on Instagram stories?

• When you feel unsure of what to say or what to post, what to do? 

• A few examples of good story prompts?

• What apps she uses to make your IG stories?

• What are some things you can do now TO SIGN MORE CLIENTS?

• What are some ways to start convos with ideal clients from Stories into DMs?

• What are some top mistakes she sees people make with their IG stories?

• Actions that you can do to tell the IG Algorithm to push up your content?

• And much more

Guest featured in this episode:

Aimee struggled most of her adult life with chronic illness, from severe migraines and headaches to reproductive issues that led to a full hysterectomy at the age of 38 and very bizarre symptoms along the way. Working over 30 years in the automotive industry she was exposed to an extraordinary amount of toxins. Not only that, but the lifestyle as a franchise owner/operator was extremely toxic and what she was using in her home all played a role in how her body was responding to it’s environment. It wasn’t until she was in midlife, dealing with over 12 years of the wonderful symptoms of menopause that she finally woke up. The doctors kept prescribing more medications and kept telling her she was under stress, but offering no solutions! And then an accidental opportunity yielded the best discoveries of her life. She has spent the last seven years improving her health naturally, removing toxins from her life and empowering families to do the same. She no longer struggle with the health issues that kept her from feeling her best. She believes that for renewed wellness and to live without chronic disease we must be aware of what we are putting IN our bodies and ON our bodies.

She started her podcast, The Toxin Terminator, to be able to bring a message of hope. Today, one in two adults struggle with a chronic disease. She knows we can make a difference! 

Things you will learn in this episode:

• What are the pillars of a toxin-free life?

• What are some common sources of pollution in our homes?

• Tips on water pollution?

• What toxins are we absorbing?

• Signs of toxic overload in our body?

• And much more

Guest featured in this episode:

Tam Luc is a serial entrepreneur and multiple best selling author. She is sharing her story of 17 years of side hustle to finally taking her business to the boss up version after getting more clear on her message. Now she helps her clients craft their message and monetize that message.

Things you will learn in this episode:

• After going into real estate, starting several side businesses, and investments she made some unexpected detours that led her to lose her house, car, basically, financial ruin, defeat, divorce, homelessness, almost losing her son, and depression, she tells us a little more about what happened.

• She shares after she felt light, rejuvenation, hope, love, married again, and traveled to over 30 countries, and come from a place of service to her clients, so when did this transition start to happen?

• She is publishing a new book series called “Women Who BossUp” which is coming out in August.  What does boss up mean to her?

• What does she think is the number one thing that is keeping businesses from growing?

• Can you change your message?

• Her message to the world?

• How can you immediately use your message to get new clients?

• And much more…