Lindsey Epperly is the CEO of Jetset World Travel, which she has scaled from a one-person operation into a team of over 70 dedicated members, in just 3 years she went from loving her home to recently recognized on the Inc. 5000 List of fastest growing companies. She is also the host of the Who Made You the Boss? Podcast.

Lucy and Lindsey discussed the importance of letting go of control and embracing uncertainty in life and they also addressed the concept of imposter syndrome in entrepreneurs, emphasizing the need to detach oneself from outcomes and not tie self-worth to business success.

Things talked about in this episode: 

• How losing control can help listeners find themselves. 
• How she went from losing her home to the Inc. 5000 List in less than 3 years. 
• What gave her hope during the darkest times in between.
• A time she faced a challenge she believed would destroy her or your business, and somehow she turned it into an opportunity for growth.
• How she battles imposter syndrome.
• and much more…

Connect With Lindsey Epperly

Website: https://www.lindseyepperly.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindseyepperly

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lindseyepperly

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindseyepperly

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Hey there high achiever, this episode is for you if you catch yourself second guessing your decisions and you want to stop that.

A very common theme I see from talking to clients or people in general is that very often as soon as we make a decision, we start second guessing or doubting our decisions. Now if you need help to make a faster decision to start with, head back to episode 93 where I talked about making faster decisions. 

Is it normal to second guess a decision? 

Totally! And you are not alone. It is human nature and that only means your brain is also doing its job right trying to protect you from what it thinks can be harmful. So don’t beat yourself up just because you are feeling this way. Second guessing is sign of a healthy, highly functional psyche. Second-guessing yourself is your way of preparing yourself for some of the realities of a new experience that you’re about to get into.

What does second guess your choices mean? 

When you second-guess something, you are predicting what will happen in the future. One of my motto has always been that the future is a mystery so let the mystery be, let it unfold, don’t waste your precious time now to worry about something that hasn’t even happened YET because today is the gift that’s why we call it the present. 

What is second guessing a symptom of?

Second-guessing is often thought of as a form of insecurity, anxiety and lack of self-confidence about whether or not you have made the right decision. Gaslighting is a term describing the form of emotional abuse where another person makes you doubt yourself or question yourself. In the case of gaslighting, seek professional help. But in this episode, I’m only talking about the kind of second guessing you are putting on yourself, the self doubt ok? Like I said earlier, it is ok and healthy to second guess decisions and maybe review the pros and cons but prolonged second guessing tendencies and inaction to move forward after making a decision needs to be stopped. 

I do think second guessing is in many ways similar to overthinking, so if you also find yourself overthinking, please also listen to episode 89 on How To Stop Overthinking

So, how do we stop second guessing ourselves? 

1. I believe the first step to overcoming any obstacle in life is to have awareness. Stopping second-guessing yourself is to understand your motivation For Why You Second Guess Yourself. Be aware of the negative thoughts that might be spiraling around in your head that’s keeping you second guessing and stopping you from taking action. 
2. Remember that only action will lead to clarity. We call it second-guessing for a reason, it is only a guess, it’s fussy, it’s blurry and we are scattered all over the place and overthinking. So the only true way to stop it is to actually take action. Yes sometimes as soon as you take action you second-guess yourself again but that’s ok because even so you have moved one step forward and baby steps forward makes forward progress. 
3.  Trust yourself and trust your intuitions. Making a decision forces you to get out of your fear loop and help you grow in areas where you’re not comfortable. When you second-guess yourself, it’s usually because of that discomfort or fear. But it’s important to remember that change happens incrementally. Even if you’re not seeing an obvious positive result yet, believe it is coming. Believe there is a way and your decision had the reason to lead you to where you are now. So again, trust yourself and trust your intuitions.
4. Realize there is often not “one right answer” This one comes up alot in client sessions. Because we are so often stuck in choosing between option a or b that we forget there is a possible c or that both a or b can work so there is actually no wrong answer. So why are you wasting so much time going back and forth in your head second-guessing yourself when if you just take action both choices would have worked out fine. 
5. Uncertainties and risks are inevitable. Remind yourself that whatever decision you make, there will always be some risk involved. The important thing is to minimise that risk as much as possible by gathering all of the information you need, making an informed decision and take action. Uncertainty is the only certainty we truly have, so embrace each season, embrace each opportunity to grow, embrace failures, embrace mistakes, and just have more fun along the way. Instead of dwelling in your decision, focus on how you can make this new journey or new chapter of your life more interesting for your own enjoyment. Ask yourself what actions can you take that you will actually be happy doing? Focus on your long term goals, focus on your mindset, focus on your personal growth. When you focus on the right things, that’s when things change for you. Cheers to you writing the new adventurous chapter of your life and please comment below what other topics you want me to cover, see you next week. 

This episode is for you if Your Heart Says to Leave a Legacy in this lifetime.

Bridget Cook-Burch’s clients call her “The Book Whisperer”. She is a New York Times & Wall Street Journal bestselling author, mentor, trainer, mamma-bear humanitarian, and speaker known for riveting stories of transformation.

Her powerful work has been showcased on Oprah, Dateline, CNN, GMA, The History Channel, NPR and in People among many others.

She is the CEO and Founder of YourInspiredStory.com and Inspired Legacy Publishing. As a successful entrepreneur, Bridget has also owned and operated a multimillion-dollar trucking company, a phone book and a PR agency. She is also a co-founder and former executive director of SHEROES United, a non-profit organization that helps women and girls rise from trauma. As a leader, storyteller, trainer and humanitarian, her greatest passion is helping others to discover the importance of their own story, and to become leaders in their own communities, and worldwide.

Bridget’s many national bestsellers include Divine Turbulence, The Witness Wore Red; Shattered Silence; Skinhead Confessions; Leading Women; and also Living Proof. Bridget invites you to believe in the power of your story to change the world. Join her writers’ retreats and leadership retreats in Utah, Italy, Ireland and more.

Lucy and Bridget engaged in a conversation about the power of storytelling

Talked about in this episode:

• The importance of rising above limiting narratives and focusing on possibilities.
• The transformative potential of personal stories
• Overcame adversity to find purpose.
• Hero’s Journey concept and the potential of personal stories to inspire and transform others. 
• and more…

Connect With Briget Cook Burch

Website: https://www.yourinspiredstory.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bridgetcookburch

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BridgetCookBurch

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mbridgetcookburch

Dr. Patty Ann is an internationally acclaimed relationship, emotional intelligence and communication expert. She is the host of The Dr. Patty Ann Podcast, a global keynote speaker and a frequent guest expert on every major TV and print media platform.

Things we talked about in this episode: 

• the role of body language in communication
• the importance of using eyes to read body language
• the need for clarification when there’s a discrepancy between verbal and nonverbal cues
• And so much more…

Connect With Dr. Patty Ann

Website: https://drpattyann.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongrelationships

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drpattyanntublin

Twitter: https://twitter.com/drpattyann

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr._patty_ann

Ann Swanson is the author of the internationally bestselling book SCIENCE OF YOGA, which has been translated into over 15 languages. Her new book, Meditation for the Real World, illuminates the fascinating science behind meditation with step-by-step practices. 

She worked alongside Harvard neuroscientist Dr. Sara Lazar and an illustrator for the New York Times to create this science-backed visual guide. It’s important to note that Ann wasn’t a naturally “chill person,” and meditation didn’t come easy to her. 

Overcoming her own chronic pain and anxiety led her to India to study yoga and meditation, to China to explore tai chi, and to earn a Master of Science graduate degree in Yoga Therapy. Now, Ann blends cutting-edge research with ancient wisdom, resulting in realistic techniques you won’t just learn – you’ll love to live by!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• True benefits of meditation
• How even 1 minute meditations can work for you
• How to stay consistent with your meditation
• Optimizing your meditation practices
• How meditation can help you increase your confidence
• and so much more

Connect With Ann Swanson

Website: https://meditationfortherealworld.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scienceof.yoga

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/flexiblewellness

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-swanson