The Key to Confidence: Stop Self-Betrayal

In this episode Lucy shares something that is key to more confidence and completely transformed her life, decision so firm that once made everything shifted and it has the power to transform your life as well and that decision is to stop self betrayal.

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Hey there, beautiful souls! Welcome back to The Lucy Liu Show, the space where we cultivate confidence, joy, and unshakable self-belief. I’m LL, your host, life coach, and biggest cheerleader on your journey to becoming the most aligned and empowered version of yourself.

How many times have you said “yes” when your heart screamed “no”?

How often have you silenced your true desires to make others comfortable?

How many times have you abandoned yourself to fit in, to be liked, to avoid rocking the boat?

I’ve been there. For years, I ignored my inner voice. I said yes to opportunities that didn’t align. I stayed quiet when I wanted to speak. I allowed fear to keep me small, choosing external validation over my own truth. And let me tell you—every time I betrayed myself, I chipped away at my confidence.

Then one day, I made the choice.

I decided that from that moment on, I would honor myself fully.

No more people-pleasing at the expense of my own peace.

No more shrinking to fit spaces I outgrown.

No more betraying the deepest parts of myself.

And here’s the truth: when you stop betraying yourself, everything changes.

When you commit to honoring yourself, you start to attract the right people and the right opportunities—ones that align with who you truly are.

Your confidence grows because you know you’re standing in your truth. Your joy expands because you’re no longer suppressing your desires. You create a life that feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside.

This is not about being selfish. This is about self-respect. It’s about understanding that you deserve the same love and honesty that you gave to others. It’s about realizing that betraying yourself never serves anyone in the long run.

So, how do we break the cycle?

Here are three powerful steps:

Tune into Your Inner Voice – Start listening to what your heart is telling you. Before you agree to something, pause. Ask yourself, “Is this a true yes for me?”
Set Boundaries Without Guilt – Boundaries are the ultimate form of self-respect. Learn to say no when needed. Saying no to what drains you is saying yes to what truly fulfills you.
Choose Yourself Daily – This is a practice. Every day, in small ways, choose yourself. Whether it’s speaking up, resting when you need to, or pursuing your dreams unapologetically—honor your truth. I am my top priority. My needs deserve to be met.

Beautiful soul, you were not put on this earth to live a life of quiet compromise. Yes you can be quiet and confident. You don’t need to speak up when you are perfectly content. But if you ever feel you are suppressing yourself in any way, then remember that you were meant to shine, to take up space, to stand in your power. And that begins with this one decision: Never betray yourself again.

I want to challenge you—today, right now—to make this commitment.

Say it with me: “I choose to honor myself. I choose to listen to my inner voice. I choose me.” Because when you do, you unlock a level of freedom, confidence, and joy that is truly life-changing.

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Until next time, remember: You are worthy. You are powerful. And you deserve to live a life that honors YOU.

Sending you all my love and light. Talk soon!